Fun Friday: 3 Wedding Night Rituals You Never Knew

TGIF. We want to start the weekend off right; with something fun and not so serious. So, we decided to do some research on Wedding Night Rituals from around the world: past and present.

It’s true that in the past couples used to leave the wedding early and rush off to the airport to fly or cruise somewhere sunny and tropical, but fast forward to present day and although leaving early is still somewhat practiced in many of the United States, here in Canada most are partying all night with their guests and then rushing off to their own home or a hotel room.

Perhaps it’s because we are so multi-cultural and fusion weddings are the norm so we’ve picked up on other culture’s traditions, but one thing is common, in most cultures, if not all, the union must be consummated to complete the marriage ritual. However, wedding night rituals vary from culture to culture and some of the ones we’ve found are outright mind-blowing.

Here are three interesting ones that we’ve found that are still practiced today.

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France: La Soupe.
This sounds innocent enough right? Well, just like with most marriage traditions, the origins are not very tasteful. This tradition is actually quite barbaric… and definitely doesn’t ooze romance and love. Here’s how it used to work: at the end of the reception after the couple left to go do the ‘horizontal tango’, the wedding party would stay behind to clean up. Well, their idea of cleaning up was to toss everything from wine and cake to leftover food and even used tissues into a toilet (yep, a toilet!) and would then beckon the couple to join them and the rest of the guests to drink it all up….yum! Why you ask? It was meant to give them their mojo to go all night.

Nowadays of course, this practice is no longer so nasty. Luckily for the couple La Soupe is now a lovely French Onion Soup.

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Greece: Krevati – Bed Making Ceremony
So you’re thinking that this would be the honeymoon bed full of rose petals, a bottle of champagne and chocolate on the night table and aromatherapy candles. Right? Well, you’d be wrong. Making the Krevati (bed) is an old Greek Tradition, which takes place two nights before the wedding by both sets of families and close friends. Everyone gets together and feasts on delicious food and drink while a few happily married women make the bed for the marital night. Once the bed is made with the matrimonial sheets, family and friends toss money on the bed to symbolize wealth and prosperity in their marriage. A young boy or girl, depending which the couple wants first, is rolled on the bed and the couple cannot sleep there until, you guessed it, the wedding night.

Thankfully the in-laws and uncles don’t inspect the sheets anymore, like they used to historically, to ensure the Bride’s virginity. You think that’s bad? In some parts of Africa the blood stained sheets are still kept and hung out like a flag for the world to see that the Bride was a virgin.

China: One Candle, two glasses and a bunch of dirty jokes.

Traditionally after the wedding, the couple would retreat to their home and they would be given two goblets of wine & honey. The glasses were joined, tied by a red ribbon, and the couple would drink together with arms intertwined. There would also be a Dragon and Phoenix candle lit, in the bedroom, which would ward off evil spirits and give good luck to the couple on the wedding night. The procession to the wedding suite included the wedding party, family and friends, who would stay with the couple and banter, joke and play games that would help the couple get comfortable with each other. The room would be open to welcome guests for three days and after that they would retreat to the Bride’s parents house where they would be greeted as guests for the first time.

Although these days, traditions tend to be followed, some couples still have their wedding party lead them to their room and take part in some fun, inappropriate jokes and games. The Dragon and Phoenix Candle is also still lit, for custom’s sake.

Groomsday: Tuxedo or Suit? Pick What’s Right For Your Wedding Day!

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Time to focus on our Grooms-to-be! It’s fair to say that more often than not the Bride is the center or attention and ‘planner’ of the wedding while the Groom-to-be stands on the sidelines simply being informed of the decisions that have been made or gives the sign-off on them. However, there are some decisions that he should to be involved in. Brides, we encourage your to take notes.

In general, the Bride-to-be decides on colour, design and florals. We get it Brides, you have a clear idea of what you want since you’ve been planning this from the time you were a wee toddler; but unless your Groom-to-be was your play date, he was just a shadowed figure in that vision with no voice. It’s time to empower your men and get into compromising mode. You might find that your Groom’s also have a vision and it might not involve pink and lavender florals with frilly chair covers. Remember that your men do have great taste ladies; after all they did choose you to spend their lives with. However, that pink vest you want him to wear with that white Tuxedo may not be his idea of debonair. Just like Brides want to look beautiful and feel like royalty on their wedding day, Grooms want to feel refined and sexy with a touch of class & sophistication; and there are not many things sexier than a well-dressed man.

So, what does a Groom wear on their wedding day? A Tuxedo or a Suit?

Well, here is our answer. Both a suit and a Tuxedo are dapper and spruce up your look but all in all it depends strongly on what the Groom-to-be wants to feel like. Does he want to feel dashing like James Bond or smart like Tom Cruise in the Firm? Also depending on what type of wedding you are having this will play a role. For example, if you are getting married on a beach in Mexico it may make more sensed to wear a light cotton suit as opposed to a heavy tuxedo. If you are having formal wedding at stunning venue or the well-manicured lawn of a mansion, then you will want to up the ante and wear a tux.

Here are the main differences:

A Tuxedo takes formality to the highest level. It is the perfect piece to for a luxurious event like a wedding. There are many cuts of jackets and usually comes in Black or White. The lapel of the tux is satin as is the stripe on the side of the pants; The Jacket buttons are covered in fabric and although originally only had one button, there are now two or more buttoned jackets. A Tuxedo has no belt loops and cufflinks are used instead of buttons on the shirt cuffs. The shirt worn is typically pleated although more modern styles give some variation on that and either suspenders or cummerbunds are worn that match the bowtie or tie around the neck.

A Suit on the other hand is something that you would wear as a guest and depending on your job, at work. Although amazing designers have taken the design and customization of suits to a whole new level these days, a suit is less formal than a Tuxedo. A suit uses one fabric through out and uses plastic buttons. The shirt worn is a regular button down shirt with plastic buttons on the cuffs. The suit can be worn with or without a vest, and tie, although bowties are also worn.

Overall the best thing to do is to check out different tuxedo’s and suits online and in magazines and print of cut out the ones you love. Then we recommend taking those clippings to one of our great Men’s Formal vendors and have one of the amazing professionals help you decide on the best look for you and your wedding.

The Kennedy’s 60th Wedding Anniversary

What happens when a young and gorgeous Washington Times-Herald’s “Inquiring photographer” marries the handsome Massachusetts Senator? They make national headlines and their wedding day stands to be remembered through the ages. In fact, they have left their indelible mark on history and to this day, they are often referred to as “American Royalty”.

Sixty years ago this month, on September 12th 1953 to be specific, a few months after officially announcing their engagement on June 25th, Senator John Fitzgerald Kennedy married Jacqueline Bouvier in a splendid Newport, Rhode Island affair.

Their wedding was the social event of the season attended by senators, diplomats and social figures. An estimated 600 guests witnessed the couple exchanging vows at their wedding ceremony in St. Mary’s Church. Later in the day, 900 guests celebrated with the couple at their illustrious wedding reception at Hammersmith Farm; a Victorian mansion that was the childhood home of Jacqueline Bouvier.

The glowing bride, Jackie Kennedy, looked stunning in her long veil and beautiful wedding gown. New York City, African American fashion designer, Ann Lowe, designed her dress and the dresses of her bridesmaids. Today, you will find Jackie’s wedding dress housed at the John F. Kennedy Presidential Library and Museum in Boston, Massachusets. As for her wedding bouquet, Jackie opted for an elegantly cascading bouquet that complemented her wedding dress perfectly. After the lavish and joy-filled wedding day, the newlyweds enjoyed a honeymoon in Acapulco, Mexico.

JFK and Jackie’s wedding was a highly publicized event. So on that day in 1953, LIFE magazine sent photographer Lisa Larsen to cover the wedding. LIFE magazine had also reported on the scene.

Here is an excerpt from an article from their issue “The Senator Weds”:

The marriage of Washington’s best-looking young senator to Washington’s prettiest inquiring photographer took place in Newport R.I. this month and their wedding turned out to be the most impressive the old society stronghold had seen in 30 years. As John F. Kennedy took Jacqueline Bouvier as his bride, 600 diplomats, senators, social figures crowded into St. Mary’s Church to hear the Archbishop of Boston perform the rites and read a special blessing from the pope. Outside, 2,000 society fans, some came to Newport by chartered bus, cheered the guests and the newlyweds as they left the church. There were 900 guests at the reception and it took Senator and Mrs. Kennedy two hours to shake their hands. The whole affair, said one enthusiastic guest, was “just like a coronation.”

Now, it is only fitting that on the 60th anniversary of JFK and Jackie’s wedding, we present this gallery of gorgeous and intimate photographs of one of the most high-profile American weddings.

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The Wedding Ring: A Universal Token of Love with a Tremendous History

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Aside from the gorgeous wedding gown and the breathtaking reception venue, at the core of every wedding day lie a variety of cultural traditions that make each and every wedding ceremony and reception as unique as the couple themselves. There is however one undeniable common denominator to the millions of wedding ceremonies that take place all around the world. It is the most recognized symbol of love that a couple cherishes and keeps long after their wedding day. They wear it with pride and it is a constant reminder of their love and commitment to each other.

The global common denominator that transcends cultural and religious differences is the wedding ring. So how did something as small as a wedding ring come to mean so much? Well, it happens to be a piece of jewelry with a tremendously rich and long history. A history that began in the deserts of North Africa with the ancient Egyptian civilization.

At the time, the ancient Egyptian civilization developed along the luscious flood plains of the Nile River. To the Pharaoh’s people, the river was a source of great fortune and life. In fact, the very first wedding rings were fashioned from plants growing along its banks. Growing alongside the ever-popular papyrus were sedges and reeds that were twisted and braided into rings for fingers.

For Egyptians and many ancient cultures, the ring of course is a circle and the circle was a symbol of eternity. Just like time, it has no beginning and no end; and much like life, it returned to itself. The shape was also worshipped in the form of the Sun and the Moon. Even the empty center of the ring held great meaning: It is the symbol of the gateway leading to events both known and unknown. This is precisely how the ring began to be associated with love in hopes that this great emotion would take on the characteristics of the circle and be captured for eternity.

The ancient Egyptians wore the ring just like we do today, on the third finger of the left hand. They believed that particular finger has a vein that connects directly to the heart. The Greek later took on this legend when Alexander the Great conquered Egypt. The Greek then passed it on to the Romans who called it the ‘vena amoris’, which is Latin for the ‘vein of love’.

These early rings lasted about one year before wear and tear took their toll. It wasn’t long before some decided that they wanted longer lasting material like leather, bone or ivory to craft their token of love.

To this day, the wedding ring is a universal token of love that, as history dictates, was born with the start of civilization. Just like the emotion it represents, the wedding ring and its significance continue to stand the test of time.

Do you have a favourite Wedding Tradition? Please share below! We’d love to hear it!

Personalize Your Wedding with a Signature Drink

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In a digital age where we Instagram and ‘pin’ routinely, especially gastronomic creations that are served with design and a presentation in mind; in an age where there are so many new flavour variations and the ‘Wow Factor’ is everything; we feel that now, more than ever before, personalization really matters.

Signature Drinks are definitely one of the more fun, cool and easier things to incorporate into your day to bring that unique touch to your wedding soiree. We know that signature drinks are not a new invention, but when you create your own custom blend beverage or match your drink colour to your design hues, it brings your special day up to a whole new level. Guests remember first impressions and definitely things that please their senses.

Discussing drink options with the venue bartender is a great way to research and find an existing drink to suit your theme and design. Another recommended way is to hire a mixologist to craft a drink customized for just the two of you. Our only advice is to remember to have a designated driver when you go for that tasting.

Another great reason to have a signature drink is that in some cases it really helps to keep your budget in check if you are having a consumption bar. You can serve only the signature drink during cocktail hour along with non-alcoholic beverages. That way you have the fixed price for that drink and you can control what goes in it.

Here are a few great signature drinks we’ve come across that we would absolutely recommend for alcohol based signature drinks:

1. For a Blue or Jazzy themed event:

The Blue Velvet Martini

1 & ½ – Vodka
¼ oz. Blue Curacao
Dash of Lime Juice
Stir with cracked ice & strain into a chilled cocktail glass, Garnish with a slice of lemon.
Garnish with a Blue orchid or if you want to a more fun approach, blue rock candy.

2. For a Carnival themed wedding how about a Cotton Candy Martini. If you ask us, we think it’s AHH-mazing.

Cotton Candy Martini

2 oz Cotton Candy Vodka
1 oz Pineapple Juice
1 oz Cranberry Juice
Splash of grenadine
Crushed Ice
Garnish with a pinch of Cotton Candy (or two if you like: )

3. For an outdoor garden wedding how about this:
Brazen Watermelon Blush

1 & ½ parts Watermelon Vodka
2 parts fresh kiwi and strawberries pureed
1 sprig of mint
1 kiwi slice
1 strawberry slice
crushed ice
Watermelon
Combine vodka & pureed fruit in a shaker. Shake and strain over ice and pour into glass.
Garnish with a sprig of mint, kiwi and a strawberry slice.

Bonus Budget Saving Tip: . Ask if your bartender will be willing to serve half portions in smaller glasses or goblets of the same drink and garnish, garnish, garnish. That can really stretch your wedding dollar without jeopardizing the overall vibe.

Wedding Dress Shopping: The Good, The Bad & The Honest-To-Goodness Truth!

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You’re engaged! Yay! We bet you can’t wait to get shopping for your Perfect Wedding Dress!

It can be very overwhelming to take the plunge and venture out to the Bridal Boutiques & you likely have a thousand questions: Should you choose a white, ivory or completely non-traditional and adorn a coloured dress? What style is right for you? What should you budget for it and where should you start?

Following are some valuable Do’s and Dont’s to get you started on your ‘find-the-perfect-dress’ scanvenger hunt.

DO: Get inspired from Magazines or Pinterest.

Whichever way you are being inspired for your Wedding Gown, print (or rip out) your top two or three choices & bring them with you to the Bridal Salon. It’s the best way to have the Bridal Consultant quickly understand your style. If you don’t have any, maybe bring with your some ‘vision board’ pics of your wedding design.

DON’T: Overshop or Shop too early.

If you have found the dress, stop Shopping! Whether it’s the first shop you went into or the fifth, when you fall in love with a dress don’t hesitate to ‘Say Yes To the Dress!’

Many Brides get engaged 18 months or more before their wedding and want to start shopping for their dress immediately. We suggest you shop and order about 9-12 months before your wedding date. Firm up your main wedding details first. Things like your budget, venue and overall style of your wedding are important in making your Wedding Dress decision. It will also give you time to save.

DO: Be open minded

More often than not, the dress you fell in love with on a model or on the rack, might be the least flattering on you. This is normal. There are so many designed dresses that flatter different body types & match each Bride differently.

Allow your Bridal Consultant some leeway to implement their expertise by selecting a couple of gowns they feel will suit you. You may be surprised that some of the best dresses are ones you never considered.

DON’T: Get hung up on size.

Most Bridal Wear sizing is still using a Pre-World War II size chart used to make uniforms, not modern ready to wear sizing. To make things more complicated, each designer has their own size charts. For example, you might be a size 2 in your regular ‘Street-size’, but find yourself ordering a size 10 Wedding Dress. It doesn’t mean you need to go on a strict fast for the next 6 months, don’t worry.

DO: Order your Gown based on your current measurements.

Sure, we’d all like to lose some weight, but ordering your dress based on what you ‘might’ do is a mistake. Planning your wedding can be a stressful time on it’s own without adding unrealistic expectations of losing 4 sizes to the mix. As your Bridal Consultant will advise you, order your current size and you can always alter it afterwards. Many dresses can be taken in up to 4 sizes without compromising the overall style of the dress.

DON’T: Bring your entire entourage with you.

We know it’s easy to get swepted way with excitement and you’ll want to bring your 6 person wedding party, your Mom, Grandma and fave aunt with you share the moment, but too many opinions can drive you to tears and ruin what should be a beautiful life experience.

Instead bring no more than three people with you. One: the person who is paying (if it’s not you). Two & Three: people who are honest with you while understanding that it’s ultimately your day. You have to love the dress regardless if its their top choice or not.

There is a myth that we constantly hear that the person paying has the final say. The truth is that the person paying has a say on what they will contribute financially, but certainly don’t have the last word on your Wedding Gown. Your wedding should be your style.

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