Fun Winter Wedding Ideas

 

There is something very romantic and fairy-tale-like about having a winter wedding. From the beautiful wedding attire to the glorious festive decor, fun winter wedding ideas and inspiration are plentiful.

Pictures of Elegant White Horses trotting along pulling the Bridal carriage to the Church, Fur Capes brushing upon the snow, Church bells ringing and magical sounds of merriment leading the procession. What more magical and dreamlike wedding can you ask for? Right? For some, it’s perfection, but for others, a Majestic Dark horse riding into the sunset along a sandy white beach after a beautiful seaside ceremony is the ideal scenario.

Whatever your taste, a winter wedding is stunning and definitely worth considering. Here are some fun and unique ideas to get you all warmed up with the idea of winter nuptials.

Hot Chocolate Station. Include flavoured hot chocolate, Chocolate Fondue and even tasty marshmallow’s in your wedding colours for guests to warm up with.

If the wedding is somewhere hot, how about a ‘Cold Chocolate’ station as opposed to a Hot Chocolate station? You can have iced cocoa, fudgesicles and even chilled coffee with chocolate liqueur as a late night treat.

Instead of a guest book, how about paper snowflakes where your guests can write their wishes for you. You can later glue these throughout your wedding photo album.

Don’t use flowers for your bouquet, how about branches adorned with crystals and small brooches and ornaments throughout. Not only will it be a great keepsake, but certainly one of a kind.

Instead of the typical red, white, gold and green, how about brass, silver and blue? There are no rules that say you have to follow the ‘Christmas’ colour palette just because your wedding is in the winter.

Follow us and take a look at our Pinterest Board for more fun ideas: http://www.pinterest.com/thepwgca/toronto-and-destination-winter-weddings/

We’d love to hear your ideas, please feel free to share by commenting.

 

Five Strange Wedding Trends

How many times have you wondered how weird certain trends are and how in the world they even came about. Here are Five Strange Wedding Trends that we thought would be fun to share!

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1. Trash the Dress. – Creative Photography has become amazingly popular and it is truly quite the impressive art form. Trash the Dress consists of literally trashing your perfectly fine wedding dress and destroying it for art’s sake.

Alternatively: Glam the Dress & Rock the Frock have also increased in popularity in the Creative Photography realm. Brides get all dolled up again and this time take amazing fashion photos in various likely or even unlikely locations!

2. The White Wedding Dress. – Way back when this trend started with Queen Victoria popularizing the White Wedding Dress, White was worn for mourning. So wearing a white gown for the big day would be quite morbid. The norm before that were dresses in different colours.

Alternatively: Nowadays, Colourful Dresses have made a comeback, and although white is still the number one choice, the present day morbid counterpart is the Black Dress. Maybe that will be a norm one day, who knows.

3. Bad luck will come to the couple is the Groom sees the Bride before the wedding ceremony. Although this has been so romanticized, this tradition started when marriages were more like business transactions (arranged) and there was fear that the Groom might potentially back out of the wedding altogether if he didn’t like what he bought … sorry, slip of the tongue, meaning who he was about to marry.

Alternatively: The First Look has become increasingly popular. The couple arranges a time to meet prior to the ceremony where they privately get to see each other for the first time in dressed as a Bride and Groom.

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4. Marrying your Pets. – Ok, we admit, pets are cute and cuddly and totally part of your family. However, having them get dressed up as Bride & Groom to get married the same time you are to symbolize the fact the now the two pets are also adjoined in harmonious marital bliss is, well… just plain weird. I mean you wouldn’t have your children do that would you?

Alternatively – including your pets in the ceremony is a great idea. Maybe you can have your dog in a bow tie pulling a little wagon down the aisle with the rings in it. That would be super cute.

5. The Bachelor Party – This is a party for the Groom-to-be to celebrate (be taunted and inebriated) his last-hurrah as a single man; before the ole ball and chain is locked on!  The origin here is that this would symbolize the Groom going from boy-hood to man-hood. In North American Strippers, mass amounts of alcohol and disorderliness used to be the way it was done. Thankfully it’s much more toned down now and strippers are not typically the norm.

Alternatively: Pick a Destination like Las Vegas or Cancun, Mexico and have all your closes family and friends join you and your other half for a weekend getaway!

Is Marriage for you?

I know, what a title right… Is Marriage for you? Well, we definitely got your attention! A little while ago we came across an equally eyebrow raising title: Marriage Isn’t For You and as we continued to read, we realized that what Seth Adam Smith had written, was Gold. It was advice that would ring true for decades and centuries to come.

Marriage Isn’t For You

 Kim and I

 

Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me.

Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading.

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all.

Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy?

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad.

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget.

My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.”

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family.

My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one.

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?”

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish.

But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and aguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul.

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I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better.

To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is about the person you love.

And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered.

Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others.

5 Wedding Nightmares that can ruin your wedding

In celebration of Halloween, we thought it would be a good time to share with you some of the most horrific scenarios we’ve ever heard of that can leave your Toronto Wedding scrambling. We know you want the perfect wedding and everything you have spent tireless hours planning will be ‘out-of-this-world’ stunning.  However, Wedding Nightmares do happen and regardless of how many ‘Plan B’s’ you have for each wedding element, you will not be 100% ready for them. Here is a list of 5 Wedding Nightmares that can ruin your wedding.

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  1. Medical Emergency – Anything from an immediate family member suffering a a heart attack to the Groom having a severe allergic reaction and rushed to the hospital, are things that can stop the wedding dead in it’s tracks.
  2. Death in the family – Picture this nightmare: A father goes up to make a beautiful speech and toast for his daughter and new son-in-law and in mid-sentence collapses from a heart attack. That is exactly what happened to one couple who were having a beautiful wedding until the Brides father fell and never got back up. Read it here.
  3. Venue Closure – The most recent disaster of the Government shut down in the States left many couples scrambling for a solution since the shutdown forced the closure of national parks and museums. One couple from New Jersey had all theirs and their guests flights an accommodations booked for the Grand Canyon and had to cancel last minute.
  4. Severe Weather – What happens if Mother Nature crashes  your wedding plans? Unfortunately it can and does happen on occasion. From last year’s Hurricane Sandy to the Earthquake that shook up a Chinese wedding and left them with these photos.
  5. Bridal Store shutdown – It’s days before your wedding and you excitedly make the trek to pick up your wedding gown. When you get to the store, it’s vacant. “Smashed mirrors, broken windows, drywall on the floor, labels on the floor . . . garbage everywhere. At that point I knew what was going on. I turned around and said to my cousin: ‘She’s gone. She’s gone.’ ” Sarah Boston said of her horror in finding out that the Bridal Shop owner had closed shop and disappeared with, not only her money, but her dress too. See the full story here.

Blog credits: Toronto Star, Huffington Post, Daily Mail.co.uk, CNN, Fox News

Importance of an Engagement Period

On the heels of Kim and Kanye’s Proposal, which was pretty darn amazing…and expensive, and with talks already about prenup’s and having only a short engagement, we wanted to focus a bit on the importance of an engagement period.

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The engagement is the period between the proposal and the wedding. It can be any span of time, however, typically in North America the Engagement is about 12 – 24 months. There is no standard. Historically and even presently in some cultures, parents would arrange the marriages of their children and once the engagement took place they were encouraged to spend as much time as possible with each other prior to their marriage in order to get to know each other and accept each other.

North America and most of the Westernized world doesn’t really engage in arranged marriages and therefore the engagement period serves as the time to plan the wedding. However, there are other important reasons to embrace your engagement period. Here are a few that we felt were of significance.

  • Family Ties – It’s important that you really connect with your future in-laws and really start to enjoy being part of the new addition to your family. It’s also equally important that the two families meet and get to know one another. Reason being that if there are any serious differences that they can be ironed out and dealt with prior to your big day.
  • Marriage Preparation – This is the time or your relationship that, if you are not already living together, you will start to spend a lot more time together and start to pay attention to how the other ‘lives’ on a day to day basis. There’s no doubt you love each other, but learning to accept each others daily quirks is a compromise you will need to start mastering.
  • Financial Planning – Will you have a Prenuptial Agreement? Joint bank accounts? Will you each take care of your past debt or wait until you clear that up to get married? Tying up all the lose ends and coming up with a mutual financial plan is one of the most essential items that should be on your wedding checklist.
  • Family Planning – You need time to discuss your future hopes and wants. How many children, if any, do you want? What are you religious beliefs and if different, how will you compromise?
  • Wedding Planning – planning your wedding will be one of the first big emotional events of your lives and you will need to come together to compromise on many things leading up to your wedding. For example: What kind of Budget do you have? What will be your family and Friend’s participation? Will you have an intimate or grand wedding? Or will your wedding be a destination wedding with only the two of you?
  • Tying up loose ends – Most of us have things we need to work on that we have put off. It could be a school loan that needs to be paid off, weight loss, putting some closure to a personal issue etc. Entering your marriage renewed is vital.
  • Enjoy Pre-Wedding events – From engagement parties, tux fittings, showers, bachelor parties and the rehearsal dinner, give some time to really enjoy these events instead of ‘fitting them in’ to get them over with.
  • Balance – Just because you are engaged doesn’t mean that everything has to be ‘Wedding related’.  Keep enjoying the time you spend as a couple like you always did and when you are out with your friends and family it doesn’t have to be all about the Drama or excitement surrounding your big day! It’s so easy to get tied up with wedding stuff that dating goes out the window and family get-togethers & friendships become strained. Assign certain days of the week that are strictly for your wedding planning and the rest keeping things down to earth.

2014 Trending Wedding Colours

Every fall we look to Pantone to inform us of what upcoming trending wedding colours will be in for the Spring/Summer 2014 (The fall colours will be out in the spring). These are the colours that we will see more and more of in the fashion world come the new year and as we know the fashion world has a huge influence on so many design related trends. So, it’s no surprise that the Pantone Colours will make their way into new wedding fashions as well as into our wedding decor and design palettes throughout next year.

The 2013 Spring’s colours from Pantone www.pantone.com

This past Spring we saw Emerald take centre stage as when it was announced as the colour of the year and it definitely was a beautiful choice and we positively loved it. However, 2014′s colour of the year has got to be one of our favourites! We are excited to announce that the choice 2014 Pantone colour is Dazzling Blue! Using Traveling, Women-Power and Blooming Flowers as inspiration, the 2014 hues are vibrant and revitalizing. Here are the top 10 colours in this stunning colour palette for the upcoming new year.

The Pastel:

  • Tranquil and Peaceful,  Placid Blue
  • Romantic and Vintage, Violet Tulip
  • Ornamental and Chic, Hemlock
The Neutral:
  • Carefree and Relaxing, Sand
  • Sophisticated and Cool, Paloma
The Bright:
  • Spicy and sweet, Cayenne
  • Fun and Lively, Freesia
  • Warm and Vibrant, Celosia Orange
The Bold:
  • Regal and Vibrant, Orchid
  • Rich and Glamorous, Dazzling Blue

2014 Pantone Colours

Pair the Pastels with the Bolds, the Neutrals with the Brights and the Bold with the Neutrals to create some fun and exciting combinations that can make your wedding stand out.
What colour pairings do you love? Did they make the 2013 or 2014 Pantone list? Let us know by leaving a comment for us. Stay tuned for a future blogpost for our Inspiration Board using some of our Pantone Inspired Colours of 2014.

The Truth about Wedding Planners

So, we came across this great blogpost by one of our advertisers: The Truth about Wedding Planners, and lucky for us got the permission to share it with all of our readers. We at The PWG have incredibly talented Toronto Wedding Planners & Toronto Wedding Coordinators in our directory that are amazing at what they do. You can find them by here.

The Truth about Wedding Planners  

One of the first things I do when a Toronto Engaged Couple contacts me is ask them some screening questions. Questions like: What date are they hoping for?  how many guests they are hoping to invite? what city they want to have their wedding in?  and; what is their budget? Contrary to some beliefs, I don’t ask these questions because I want to know how much to charge them, I ask because it let’s me gage how realistic they are about their budget. In other words, if my couple wants a Saturday July Wedding for 150 guests in downtown Toronto for a budget of $15,000.00, I know that I need to put on my ‘reality check’ hat to educate them of some real costs.

 Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that a lower budget wedding in downtown Toronto is impossible, I’m saying that they first need to understand how much things cost. They need to know the compromises & cuts that must be made in order to make that happen. Compromises like: a smaller guest list, different reception time and type, choosing a less popular day of the week etc.

 Many couples tend to wrongly think that hiring a Wedding Planner will automatically mean negotiations with vendors to get them better deals. Sometimes we can get some added value with vendors and on occasion a discount or two, but nobody works for free. Think of it this way, if your boss came to you and said “I’m on a tight budget and can only pay you 1/2 of your pay for the same amount of work”, how would you feel? I bet that it would not bode well and you’d think your boss didn’t appreciate you; it would be unacceptable. You, rightfully, want to get paid for your hard work. Same goes with your Toronto Wedding vendors including your wedding planner.

 Remember that your wedding planner will spend countless of hours researching all your needs, emailing, calling and visiting venues and vendor’s to find ones that are perfect for your wedding; create and manage your budget, produce your timeline, fully develop the wedding theme or vision you have, handle confirmations, follow-up calls and visits with your vendors, create your itinerary for you and your vendors, attend, manage and even direct your rehearsal and wedding ceremony, if you need it and coordinate and manage your wedding day. By the way, that’s just the condensed list.

A common misconception that couples (and sometimes their wedding party and family has) is that we wedding planners will pick up ALL the slack that you either didn’t have time to do or forgot to do all free of charge because we want to make you happy and give you a stress-free day. Although it’s true that we are there to make your day exceptional and as low-maintenance as can be, and it’s also true we do whatever is in our power to solve and divert any last minute issues, we are not miracle workers.  We cannot make your delivered $50 centrepieces look identical to the photo you printed off Pinterest of the $300.00 one you asked your florist to scale down to save costs. We cannot simply add in unordered champagne for your guests on the day-of because your ‘fave uncle’ decided he wants to make a toast. If you didn’t purchase the champagne, the venue likely would not have it kicking around. We cannot challenge signed contractual agreements or coerce your wedding vendors to do things you did not agree to prior to your wedding day.  For example: I can’t guarantee that your photographer will be convinced to stay later at no cost because you were late to your ceremony and everything is running late. Likewise, I can’t convince your venue to keep the bar open later just because your guests are having a great time. As a planner it is my job to help plan your wedding based on your budget and try to make it work with your vision in some way. My job is to help on the day to manage your event to have it all run smoothy and hopefully without incident.  It’s my job to direct the wedding and troubleshoot any situations or problems that may arise. So, if your ‘fave uncle’ did want to make a toast, I could instead ask that a wine or sparkling cider be provided for your guests for an extra fee by your venue; although there are never guarantees, it would be a more likely scenario to expedite.

Although I can’t guarantee or promise perfection, I can promise that my team and I will do a perfect job in putting our best foot forward every step of the way and providing prompt, quality service during your planning and wedding day; I can promise that I will always advise you of all your options; the upsides and downsides to all your wedding ideas;  I can also promise that I will be your eyes and ears on your wedding day to make it a beautiful experience for you and your loved ones.

Keep in mind that hiring a planner, even for just a series of consults will help. Regardless of your budget, it is important to meet with a professional coordinator to, at the very least, help get you organized and on the right track.

The Truth about Wedding Planners was written by: Denise Georgiou-Newell of WeDDings Jubilee

10 Questions To Help You Choose An Officiant

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When we came across this video taken at a recent wedding of a Priest interrupting the ceremony to ‘kick out’ the photographer, we felt sorry for the blissful couple. However, confrontations like this do happen from time to time with officiants. This video has been making its way through all the social media streams and blogs and has brought about some important questions. How much control does the officiating party actually have on your wedding day; and How can a similar occurrence be avoided from ruining your all-to-important vows?

For a Priest or Minister in a churchlike setting, the rule of thumb is that the church is their home; therefore, their home means their rules. Before booking your church make sure you ask the right questions and ensure that your expectations and their ‘house rules’ coincide so you can eliminate any embarrassing scenarios.

If your wedding is not in a religious home and you are hiring a justice of the peace, it may be a lot more flexible, however the officiant may still have very specific rules that will need to be respected.

Here are a few questions that you are going to want to ask before you decide on who will be marrying you:

1. Will the officiant be conducting the rehearsal as well as the ceremony? If not, who will and are you comfortable with that?
2. Do you have a good rapport with the officiant?
3. Do they have restrictions about certain décor or florals in the church?
4. What are their rules for photography & videography? Are there areas restricted to vendors?
5. Is there a specific dress code? Some churches do not permit exposed shoulders or cleavage; women may not be allowed to wear pants & must wear knee length or longer dress/skirts; men must wear pants not shorts etc.
6. Will your wedding planner be permitted to help out at the wedding ceremony (lining up your wedding party, lighting candles etc) or does the officiant have a coordinator that they prefer to take care of the ceremony details?
7. Is there a fee or donation for their service and/or will you need to put aside a gratuity for the officiant, musicians, cantors etc?
8. Do you need to be a member of the religious community in order to have your wedding at your chosen location?
9. What is the capacity of the site and are there seats? Will all your guests be able to sit or will they need to stand?
10. Are there restrictions to the type of music you can select for your processional, signing of the registry and recessional?

Always keep in mind that respect is a two way street and your wedding ceremony is the main event.

Inspired by Toronto Fall Bridal Shows

Happy #WeddingWednesday to all our wonderful soon-to-be married couples! As we welcome September we also welcome in a season of Toronto Fall Bridal Shows that are not to be missed! You can find our full Wedding show listings in our directory.

Wedding Shows are important when you are planning your wedding. Here’s why:

1. They really get you exposed to the variety of vendors and items that you will need for your wedding. You’ll be surprised that there are a plethora of things you haven’t even thought of.

2. You meet many great vendors and can get a realistic cost estimate for your budget. As a bonus, many vendors offer show specials that can save you a few bucks.

3. There are a ton of contests and many worth entering. To help you along, it is a good idea to print out sticky-labels with your name, address, phone number and email address so that you don’t spend so much time writing it all out from scratch as it can get ‘old’ and annoying fast.

4. It gives you a chance to view fashion shows of different styles and colours that can inspire you when designing your wedding style.

5. You can get some great ideas for your own wedding by all the wonderfully designed cakes, booth set-up’s, photographer and videographer’s photos and video etc.

6. There are a ton of cool freebies. From magazines, tasting various cakes and sweets and of course, our amazing directory full of some of the best vendors in Toronto and surrounding GTA.

7. You meet other Brides and Grooms that are planning their weddings and can make some great new friends.

This upcoming weekend there are not one, but two amazing shows in the Toronto area and we encourage you to attend them both. Why, you ask? Well, here are some of the shows’ highlights. Stop by and say hello to us at both shows and don’t forget to get your very own Perfect Wedding Guide Directory and Wedding Planner to make your wedding planning experience a breeze!


Canada’s Bridal Show
September 6th, 7th & 8th, 2013
The Metro Toronto Convention Center
www.canadasbridalshow.com

The Perfect Wedding Guide – Come by and say “Hi” and pick up The Perfect Wedding Guide: Aisle 2500 Booth 2519

Meet TLC Star Randy Fenoli
Meet the absolutely fabulous Bridal Expert and star of TLC’s Say Yes to the Dress and Randy to the Rescue, Randy Fenoli on Saturday September 7th, 2013.

$10,000.00 The Kleinfeld Experience – Thanks to the Hudson’s Bay Company and RE/MAX, you will be automatically entered for this contest once you sign up your Bridal Registry with Hudson’s Bay. This includes roundtrip airfare and transportation for two nights to New York City at the Plaza Hotel with an appointment at the infamous Kleinfeld’s. You will also receive a $500 Gift Certificate for Hudson’s Bay.

Honeymoon Giveaway – Win and All-Inclusive Dream Honeymoon for 7 nights in gorgeous Punta Cana at the 5-Star Majestic Resorts

Win 1 of 5 Diamond Rings by Marcello Jewellers
Win a $5000.00 home décor package by the Hudson’s Bay Company
Fashion Shows
A 90 minute fashion show promises all the latest wedding fashion trends.


The National Bridal Show
September 6th, 7th & 8th, 2013
International Center
fall.nationalbridalshow.com

The Perfect Wedding Guide – Come by and say “Hi” and pick up The Perfect Wedding Guide: Booth 218
Win a $5000.00 home décor package by the Hudson’s Bay Company

Enter to win an incredible $5,000 Home Décor Prize Package courtesy of Hudson’s Bay, home of Canada’s biggest & best gift registry!
Meet Jane Dayus-Hinch
Meet the lovely wedding expert and host of Wedding SOS Jane Dayus-Hinch throughout the weekend.
Huge Bridal Gown Sale
Find your dream wedding dress. Amazing designer gowns will be sold for 40-70% off.
Fashion Shows
The fashion show is happening throughout the weekend so you can check out the latest trends in wedding fashion

The Bubbly Lounge
Attendees will be able to enjoy a tasty appetizer and complimentary glass of the delightful non-alcohoic varieties from the Rotkäppchen sparkling wine portfolio while taking a relaxing break from the Show in their lounge area.

We look forward to seeing you there.